Sometimes it can feel as though we have completely lost the ability to relate to our partner. We might feel angry, frustrated, and deeply hurt that they do not seem to hear what we are trying to say… and sometimes, they might feel the same! It might be that you feel betrayed and are unable to imagine ever getting past these feelings, or bringing the intimacy and connection back into your relationship.

Counselling can offer a safe environment in which, facilitated by the therapist, you can be guided to freely express your feelings, and feel secure enough to assert your needs openly and honestly.

Blame can become a significant part of a relationship that is in conflict, and both partners might really need to feel heard and appreciated before they can even begin to let go of resentment. Using the concepts of attachment theory, I can help you to recognise and understand the origins of your relational patterns and their impact now. I can then facilitate the development of potentially transformative deep listening skills, leading to new ways of communicating with each other.